
Over the years, especially the last few, I’ve received many comments like, ‘how do you do it?’; ‘how do you get it all done?’; ‘you should teach a class on work/life balance!’ (Like I’d have time to do that!!); and finally, ‘you should blog about it!’….OK, I will.
Here’s a little background on me.
I am a daughter of almost 43 years, a wife of 20 years, a mother of three boys (ages 17, 11, and 6), and have been working all my life. I grew up on a dairy farm in southern Minnesota and will never forget the days of baling hay, chopping corn, feeding calves and just plain having fun in the milkhouse squirting my sisters with the water hose!!
It was a great way to grow up. We worked hard in the barn and in the fields, but set aside the time to be together—to eat, play Euchre and 500 and other board games, or to watch TV together (nearest movie theatre was about 50 miles away and there wasn’t a VCR in the house). And of course, take my mom and dad’s time to get to events that I participated in at school, which were many.
I now look at the life that I have created with my family and realize that it isn’t much different from how I grew up. Times have changed for sure, but we still work hard and at the same time we take the time to make sure we don’t lose the balance of having a life outside of work.
Sean and I decided before we got married that we wanted at least three children, but I also wanted to work. I have my four year degree and I wanted to get my money’s worth!
So, after baby number one I took my maternity leave and went back to work after 8 weeks (big mistake – take the 12 weeks!)…six years later baby number two…five years after that, baby number three (20 weeks of mat leave/part-time working-well worth it!)
Many people ask if we planned to have the kids that far apart – heck yes!! Who wants to pay for three kids in daycare and three kids in college at the same time – NOT US!!
I know everyone has a different philosophy on the timing of having children, but this is the route that we took and I’m very thankful that we made that decision.
In having said that, the present day brings us to all three boys playing baseball and football and they wrestle, we currently are in the wrestling season, three days a week and most weekends now through March. My middle guy is in choir (which is before school one day a week) and the two youngest have religion classes which rounds out the rest of the evenings during the week.
The most important time of our week is Friday…it is our ‘family night.’ This is the night where we make sure that we eat together, talk together, play games or watch a TV or a movie.
We’ve done really well to keep our Friday date with our family, and if there ever is a conflict, we just change to Saturday or Sunday night! It’s something that the kids look forward to and so do we!
To give you a little bit more info on my husband and I, we both work full time, love to spend time w/ family and friends, we both have motorcycles (he drives a Honda Goldwing and I drive a Harley Heritage Springer), and we always set aside time for ourselves (babies do survive without you for a night or two or more).
Sean owns two gas/service stations (and no, he hasn’t made any money on gas for quite of few years – that is its own topic). He works six days a week and his hours vary – leaves the house by 6am and we never know what time he’ll get home in the evenings. Average is between 6pm, but can be as late as 8pm – depending on the car counts, issues with the pumps, building, employees, etc. He is glad that he went into this business as he is now a self taught mechanic and entrepreneur and I couldn’t be more proud of him!!
My official title is Marketing Director – Global Channel Operations…who would’ve thought a farmer’s daughter would have global marketing responsibilities!! I have a group of 11 great people that I work with to get it done at Ergotron, so my days are filled with meetings, emails and managing the day to day ideas and issues that may not necessarily be on the agenda.
We go with the flow and it’s all about flexibility.
I don’t keep track of my work hours…I just know that it is many during the week. For example I trained one of my employees in China at 6am my time on Wednesday and Thursday from my home office, then last night after returning home from watching my kids wrestle I was checking email at 10pm.
I feel fortunate that we have great leadership at our company who believe that we all need personal lives to be productive at work, which I believe is key to the whole meaning of work/life balance.
I better get back to my busy day…I am working from home today, so I started at 6am to get on email…got the kids up and going (all were tired from last nights wrestling matches)…had a few conference calls…threw in a load of laundry which will probably be in the washer all day…started writing this blog… need to get back to email. Whew! Then take a Target run at some point (no milk or bread in the house this morning for kids breakfast – no I don’t feel guilty)…one more conference call today…and then work on cleaning out the 323 unread emails that I have in my inbox from the past month (hoping that it is mostly junk/FYI/cc’d emails and that there are no actions for me!!!).
For family night tonight we are going to order in pizza and finally going to decorate our Christmas tree. The comment from my youngest son yesterday morning was, ‘We are not ready for Christmas and it is you and Dad’s fault!’
I turned to him and told him that I could think of a few reasons why we didn’t get time to decorate the tree this week….a Vikings game, three nights of wrestling practice/meets, religion classes.
I think Santa and the Good Lord will forgive me for not quite being ready for Christmas yet!! It’s all a matter of perspective if they could see it all from my view!
Daneen Kiger, Marketing Director – Global Channel Operations @ Ergotron